Monday, 17 November 2014

Fork in the Road - Make the Best Decision Game

Ever get stuck in making a decision?  Just not sure which way to go?

Here is a game to help.
Start by playing with decisions that are not very important.
Should I eat this cupcake or granola bar?  
As your confidence grows, move on to more interesting decisions.

When in doubt of which way to go internally follow these 2 rules:

      1. Make your decision by following the very best, internal felling option. 

          Never follow fear.

      2. Use your thoughts after you determined which option feels best.  

          Otherwise things get confusing.

Every action is guided by a feeling.

This is the case even in those who are less emotion driven and more thought driven.  Ultimatly every action made by any person is guided by feeling.

Those more sensitive to feelings get more practice knowing and differentiating the waterfall of human emotion.

Following our own feelings should always lead to the best result possible.  Unless, there is already something unresolved within and is concerning the issue in need of action.

Here is an example so you can see what I mean:

To get to an important job interview John ponders about taking a shortcut through a rough area of town to catch his bus on time.  His mother's warnings, about the dangers of that area, ring through his mind.  John is faced with a decision to make.

The right decision is the one that feels more right, more exciting, more lively.  The wrong one feels off, wrong, fearful or any other type of negative.

Let us say poor John tends to think a bit much and succumb to making decisions based on fear. He feels a warm, loving, fuzzy feeling when he thinks about his mother's advice, but instead he acts on fear of missing the bus and the interview.  He follows Fear and jogs through the rough neighborhood just to get some unwanted attention on his way to the bus stop.  OR  John has always listened to his mother, and while he feels how easy it would be to stroll to the bus stop using a shortcut his fear of disobeying his mother (who says she is always right) stops him.  He takes the long, safe route just to see his bus pull away without him.  Is this not what happens to us when we feel fear, yet think we are making a reasonable decision based on thought?

Nothing Good can come out of following Bad feelings.

In this go around John has practiced this game before.  While John loves his mother he feels that strolling through the shortcut is an easy and comfortable solution.  He does not fall under the fear that his mom may have placed into him and catches his bus without a hitch.  On the other hand, he may feel best about the loving, fuzzy feelings for his mother and decides to trust them.  He takes the long way to the bus stop.  He may or may not miss the bus, but he may have avoided a serious confrontation. 

John and his situation is fictional.  Of course there can be a thousand other outcomes.

Time goes on and we never know what might have really happened IF we made a different choice.  However, by following our best feelings we know we have made the the right choices because we followed the Good feeling in every situation.

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